We had our home visit last night. I didn't realize that the person coming to see us was a therapist. We figured it out very quickly though. He gave us a 'quiz' that we both had to fill out at the same time that we couldn't discuss. We had to answer questions about the history of our family and the family of our spouse. We both had all of the same answers so that was good. He dug pretty deep and got a good picture of what my childhood was like and what the childhood of my parents was like. He congratulated me on breaking the cycle of abuse and enabling and praised Davin for all he had done to help me process those tough times and memories. I don't think I have ever been praised for surviving and doing well and Davin has never been praised for helping me before. The talk was interesting to say the least.
He talked to Alea and asked her how she felt about her parents taking in other kids. She said she was excited. He asked how she would feel if they broke her favorite toy. She informed him that it cost $14 to take an American Girl doll to the AG hospital and that if they broke one of her dolls her parents had better get the doll fixed because her dolls cost $120 each!!! I told her that was a bit too much information but our guy said at least she is honest and we know where we stand with her. I think he got a kick out of her.
Our guy said we were very honest people (I guess you would feel that way after somebody told you all of their deep, dark, ugly stuff like I had to do). Because he trusted us he said he knew we would fix the one thing we needed to get fixed and that he wouldn't be coming back out to do a final check. He said he would work on our paperwork and probably get it to our worker at DHS by September 10th. It could take a week or a couple of weeks after that for us to be open. My friend who is also a foster mom couldn't believe he didn't need to come back again because they had to do 4 visits to her house before she could open.
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